A truth thats frightening

"According to Charles Keating of Citizens for Decency Through Law, research reveals that 77% of child molesters of boys and 87% of child molesters of girls admitted imitating the sexual behavior they had seen in pornography they had watched. Roughly 33% of girls and 14% of boys are molested before the age of 18, according to the U.S. Justice Department. Nearly 2/3 of all sexual assaults reported involved minors and roughly 1/3 involved children under the age of 12. In most cases, however, child molestation goes unreported. Estimates are that only 35% of sexual abuse is reported. Kids can be frightened or embarrassed and many times do not say anything." (http://www.childmolestationvictim.com/statistics.html)

I was doing some research on this subject and honestly what I found frightened me. It's a scary thought. Honestly I believe rape in so so many ways is worse than ending a person’s life. You know afterwards it ends for the molester but it never ends for that child. They have to live with the fact they couldn’t or didn’t protect themselves because they were afraid. So if you’re reading this and you have molested someone… fix it as best as you can now. I know there is not much to be done but you do whatever you can to make sure it DOESN’T happen again. That is my advice.

On the other hand, if you have been a victim, you need to speak. DO something talk, scream, yell, cry, sleep next to your mother at night even if you’re 26. If you need that do it. Talk to someone. Talk to someone who you can trust. Just talk. That is honestly the best thing in the world. Talk to someone and then move from there. That is only a first step and I’m sure it’s not the hardest one. (Honestly if you feel you have no where to turn you can email me and I will be glad to talk to you, even if I don’t even know you I will help as much as I can. However I encourage you to talk to someone who is family or even your best friend. But talk please talk. Holding it in can kill.)

Parents… this life is so crazy and honestly there is so much evil everywhere. Sometimes you can’t protect your children. I know it’s awful to say that. I know you feel responsible to make sure they grow up safe and they become good people and that’s your job as a parent: but honestly sometimes you just can’t. You’re a human being; you can never face the evils of the entire world on your own. Honestly I say it’s better not to. Also sounds bad but life is about learning from struggles to find the happiness. It’s there just sometimes it hides. And I am not saying cause struggles, by no means cause more struggles. I’m saying if they happen, they happen: just help your child learn from them and learn from it yourself. Do what you can to protect them, they are so precious. Children really are so precious. They are only a child once. Teach them to love and not hate. Hate only causes you to give power to the person you do hate. Let go of anger. Find joy. Spend every time you have with your child they will need it. find peace even in the bad find peace. One last thing if you find out your child has been molested, help them. Don’t blame yourself for not being able to protect them when it happened. Protect them now. Help them, cry with them, talk with them, tell them you love them, be proud they have the courage to speak and tell them that, just help them. Ask them what they need. They might say “I don’t know” but you tell them if they need anything they can ask. Talk to them always, and hug them tight, it will help them to know you love them. It really will. And talk to them about rape and molestation before it even happens to help them understand it’s wrong. Also helps them know if it happens they need to tell. Talk to your children and always help them. They are vulnerable because they don’t know a lot of things about the world. Sadly people take advantage of that. Help your kids.

Even something as bad as this can have a good outcome. I know that sounds bad too. However everything has a purpose in life. Don’t stress so much live life, find joy. And most importantly help those when they reach out but more important help them when they don’t too.